Please heal my first world problem

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#1 by natsulamune
2019-05-13 at 22:47
I'm suffer under the "choice crisis". I can choose between so many Animu, Games, Manga and whatnot and always when I think what to watch/read/play I can't decide and start watch random YT-Videos which is often a waste of time.

You probably knew it anyway after reading this, but I'm autistic retarded Last modified on 2019-05-13 at 22:48
#2 by fuukanou
2019-05-13 at 23:39
#1, I think that applies to most people. A lot of it comes from the 'don't want to give up on something if it's bad/you're not interested' mindset as well. If you could just get over that, then you could start and stop at will. With me you've also got the 'I've paid 5-9k for this game I'm damn well going to read it all' mindset as well which makes choosing games a lot harder.
#3 by goblincrutch
2019-05-14 at 10:54
This is a problem I often struggle with. I think it's important to narrow down your choices and get things finished. The more you finish, the less anxiety you'll feel. I think a lack of
gratitude toward your hobbies plays a large role as well. Positive visualization by reading articles and watching videos about a specific anime/game/whatever and looking at screenshots
saved onto my phone at work helps to psyche me up into completing them when I get home. Before I take naps, I sometimes think about a hobby which serves a similar purpose.

I recommend starting with things that you're close to finishing and setting a specific time to focus on them. For example, I might dedicate 30 minutes to reading a VN I'm having trouble finishing.
I also recommend only focusing on no more than 2 activities a day and sticking with them as long as you can until they're finished. Anymore than that and you might feel like you're not making
any progress. You can pair up two interests that synergize well with eachother. When I watch isekai anime, I get the urge to play an rpg and vice versa. Same goes with slice of life anime and
slice of life VNs. I think you get the idea.

Guilty as charged here, but it's also important to avoid social media. Whoever first said that social media is a distraction that keeps you from making any real progress in your life knew what
they were talking about. Take a hiatus from VNDB, youtube, and so on. When people talk about some VN on here that I haven't gotten around to reading yet, it can remind me of the mountain of
VNs and other things I have yet to finish which returns the whole burden of choice mindset to my head.

What people say can also subtly influence your behavior. People on here have a tendency to speak ill of slice of life VNs for example. Even if you don't agree with them, it can subtly lower
your gratitude towards said VNs which can make it difficult if the VN you're currently trying to finish is exactly that kind of VN. Avoid people like that both online and in real life at least
until it's no longer a detriment to your progress in your hobbies. Most of what people think and say here are just worthless opinions that have no actual bearing on your life in the real
world anyway if I'm being completely blunt. You're not missing anything by taking a break from it.

That's all I could brainstorm from my personal experiences. Hope it helps.Last modified on 2019-05-14 at 11:15
#4 by forever-here
2019-05-14 at 11:57
I'd like to say the exact opposite. the fact that you're easily distracted to other things like youtube or moba or battle royale means you're burned out. I'd also say get out of social media but I wouldn't know as I don't go outside anymore.
#5 by natsulamune
2019-05-14 at 13:47
#3+4 I have no Facebook since one year and I also never (serious) played a MMO. I can't stand humans (exceptions prove the rule) and a Vampire-Girl sprite with pink hairs don't change the fact that the "Vampire-Girl sprite with pink hairs" is not really a Vampire-Girl with pink hairs, but it's still controlled by a fcking human and that's why I only play Offline-Games which also shipped me to VNs, because some rainy afternoon I googled after "good freeware games"
and saw Katawa Shoujo.
#6 by bobjr2000
2019-05-14 at 22:25
To follow up on what 4 said best solution might be different types of hobbies. Everything mention, games, anime, manga are similar in a way. If nothing is captivating you long enough to want to finish or get into it for long then sounds like your not interested in first place.

Outside of certain drugs/addictions most people will bore of things they like after certain point. Not to say you no longer like them but can't maintain interest constantly for long period of time if always doing them.

Personal I think most people have some cycles and varies what goes in cycle but a simple example
Eat---sleep---sex----socialize-----exercise

We are not always eating/drinking/sleeping ect but we do get these desires from time to time. I would compare your situation to masturbating and then trying to have sex right after, not going to get very far.

for most people school or work is enough to tire self then seek excitement or relaxation with things above mention.

Personal find by having diverse hobbies you are having different stimulants that are more fun and exciting because once one has been filled the others that haven't become more appealing.

It can be anything from biking, hiking, reading, writing, drawing, exercising w/e but should be some what diverse. I just follow my desires honestly which leads me into one thing then the next. Watching tv long enough makes me want to be active, makes want to relax and sit down. I do these hobbies because I want to, not because I force myself. So trying mixing some thing up and that desire should come back and something should start to stand out more than others that is really calling to you. Hopefully then you can narrow it down and it keeps your attention. Even people with adhd and short attention spans can focus on tasks that appeal to them personal.
#7 by goblincrutch
2019-05-15 at 04:14
#4 I used to agree with this advice but after half a year of not reading VNs, my aversion to them actually increased. It was like running into an old friend. The longer the time spent apart, the more awkward I felt and desired to slink away. By making a habit of reading regularly, I naturally regained my motivation to read VNs.

It might be different from person to person.

I think there is a distinction to be made here between having too many things to choose from and genuine burnout. I have a lot of hobbies like OP. But it's precisely because I have so many hobbies that I have trouble deciding between them.

When some external circumstances happen that limit my options, it can increase my motivation because the burden of choice is diminished.

At the end of the day, anything is better than doing nothing. Unless by doing nothing, you're actually meditating. That's a good habit imo and can help you avoid overthinking.
#8 by sanahtlig
2019-05-15 at 05:19
Choice overload is a well-known psychological phenomenon.

Potential solutions:
1. Delegate the choice to others. Choice overload predominantly afflicts personal decision-makers.
2. Rely on heuristics. Use user ratings, visual cues, etc. to simplify the decision-making process.
3. Restrict your choices. Use relevant (or even somewhat arbitrary) criteria to reduce the number of options that need to be considered.Last modified on 2019-05-15 at 05:40
#9 by ramaladni
2019-05-15 at 05:59
#3 I've been meaning to
tell you this but
your spacing is really weird for
some reason and it's kinda annoying.
Sorry.Last modified on 2019-05-15 at 06:01
#10 by goblincrutch
2019-05-15 at 06:16
lol It's fine. I usually use an alternative app/program to type out my posts so I don't have to constantly edit them after I submit.

My posts tend to be long-winded so I also have to copy and paste them since taking too long to type in the box makes it expire or something and I have to resubmit it.

It looks ok on my computer but on my phone it does look pretty crappy.
#11 by ramaladni
2019-05-15 at 06:22
Your post on #7 is completely fine, I'm not sure why it's different.

link vs link


I can't add much to the topic aside from what was already said, however I do agree that having too many choices makes it more difficult to actually start (and finish) something. My advice is *just do it* or save specific stuff for specific moods. It also helps to keep track of the movies/games/VNs that you got, so that you avoid forgetting about them. I also started adding notes to my VNs, so that I can remember what made me interested about them in the first place.Last modified on 2019-05-15 at 06:22
#12 by kiru
2019-05-15 at 09:27
Honestly, if it's just about choosing, it's easier to choose several, and random between them. Say, you choose 6 interesting titles, go to random.org and throw dice. (or use physical ones you have at home).

Even if the result is really unsatisfying and you'd rather play X instead, the problem is still solved.
#13 by diabloryuzaki
2019-05-15 at 12:40
vn reader have 2 type: story reader or hentai reader
which one you are?
#14 by zakamutt
2019-05-15 at 16:10
#13 ¿Por qué no los dos?

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